|Esther's first day of middle school|
When we moved from California to Texas, we had to not only shop for our own insurance, but also find a doctor to care for our two children with ADHD. We were told by our insurance salesman that there were only three insurance carries offering private insurance. He was not optimistic that they would take us because of the ADHD. And to add to the pressure, if one carrier rejected us, the other two would follow. However, in the end one accepted us, but we were told that none of the care for ADHD would be covered including tests, doctor’s visits, and medication because they considered it a mental illness. This was a blow financially. I appealed to them to consider the medication for our son as it is very expensive and necessary for him to function, but they refused.
The second issue was our doctor. In California our doctor had wanted to see
the children every six to eight months.
The new doctor in Texas wanted to see them every other month, wanted to
do full blood work every year, and an EKG every year. This was much more intense monitoring than we
received in California. At first I was
irritated at all of this intrusion and cost, but in the end it may have saved
our daughter’s life. The reason that he
wanted to study their hearts every year is that some of the ADHD medications
can have a negative effect on the heart and begin to damage it. The August before our daughter started Middle
School she had an appointment to see the doctor. We were devastated to learn that her
medication had begun to damage her heart.
We were advised to immediately take her off. She was on a low dose of a common medication,
but now she would be starting middle school with the one tool that had helped
her to learn since her diagnosis. How
was she going to function? That same
afternoon I called her school and talked to her assigned counselor about the predicament
and my concerns. The counselor was very
encouraging and grateful that I called.
She told me that she would be getting in touch with all of my daughter’s
teachers and inform them of the situation.
After I hung up with her, I knew the next thing to do was pray. I am a Christian mother and I know that in an
impossible situation that is when God does impossible things. The ending of this story was incredible. She ended up doing so well in sixth grade
that she made the honor roll.
We were so proud of her. She still has to work very hard to understand instruction. She took advantage of any tutoring the teachers offered as well as my services. Many times during sixth grade I was reteaching the material to her late into the night at the kitchen table. Seventh grade has been better for her. We encouraged her to run cross country and that run every day has helped her focus and relax more. She has gone to less tutoring sessions and my reteaching episodes have drastically been reduced. Now she is finishing up seventh grade again on the honor roll. She puts in twice the effort that “normal” children do and her grades show it. I am so proud of her hard work.
|Esther before her winter choir concert (2011)|
|Academic awards in 2012|
|Academic awards in 2013|
Do you have a child who has struggled with a disability? What are the blessings that have come from the disability?